Exactly @jcandleattic - knowing is half the battle. I'm sure once my husband was able to tell me that his anxiety was high, it made a huge difference to him as well. And that maybe the battle that @earlene is facing as well, her husband doesn't realize the anxiety or doesn't realize the need to express it in a good way. Especially if he's a "guys don't have feelings" type of guy, it may be harder for him to admit it. I wonder, Earlene, if he finds it hard to talk about if you could sit down and reminisce with vacation photos and see if he'll open up just by talking through the memories. Maybe if you specifically have a situation in your memory, just see what he remembers about that place (not the situation), maybe he'll give some clues to some inner monologue that he had going on, or if he was confused or overwhelmed. Agree with him, "yeah it was overwhelming. Maybe next time we should call a coffee break to catch our breath." And for goodness sake, the next time you are traveling and he says he needs a coffee, you go get a coffee!