RalphTheMastiff
Well-Known Member
I'm 30, and we got engaged a few months ago. We are doing things in life little out of order, we own a little home together have a payed off car, the every wonderful ralph the mastiff, life is grand. We are committed, in love, and have all the ups and downs that go along with it. Life is good! We are married without the ceremony.
This wedding thing is CRAZY! I would be happy just doing it behind the barn with close friends and family. Potluck and simple. If i don't talk to you at least once a month, I don't want you at my wedding! I feel it should be people who are in my life and are our support network not every one i'v ever met and everyone who could possible be considered a relative.
When did Weddings get so out of control and not about the 2 people getting married! The pressure from everyone is outrageous and i find myself keep telling people if you don't like it tough! and upsetting people who don't get it. I have family who i do talk to often on the other side of the country and would be more than happy to set up a web cam, why spend $4000 just to come to my wedding, why do people feel thats ok?
My wedding should not be the highlight of my life, i want the little moments to be, the feeling we had our first night in our home, our first date, the day i flash boiled bees wax and am still cleaning it up, watching my lovely bride to be use our bran new $20,000 tractor and smash into our shed and the look on her face, canning apples from our trees for the first time and eating them late in the winter with pride. This is what i want my relationship to be about, I don't want to think back 10 years from now about my wedding day on our anniversary but all the moments that we shared good and bad over the years.
Am I crazy? Am i thinking about this all wrong?
This wedding thing is CRAZY! I would be happy just doing it behind the barn with close friends and family. Potluck and simple. If i don't talk to you at least once a month, I don't want you at my wedding! I feel it should be people who are in my life and are our support network not every one i'v ever met and everyone who could possible be considered a relative.
When did Weddings get so out of control and not about the 2 people getting married! The pressure from everyone is outrageous and i find myself keep telling people if you don't like it tough! and upsetting people who don't get it. I have family who i do talk to often on the other side of the country and would be more than happy to set up a web cam, why spend $4000 just to come to my wedding, why do people feel thats ok?
My wedding should not be the highlight of my life, i want the little moments to be, the feeling we had our first night in our home, our first date, the day i flash boiled bees wax and am still cleaning it up, watching my lovely bride to be use our bran new $20,000 tractor and smash into our shed and the look on her face, canning apples from our trees for the first time and eating them late in the winter with pride. This is what i want my relationship to be about, I don't want to think back 10 years from now about my wedding day on our anniversary but all the moments that we shared good and bad over the years.
Am I crazy? Am i thinking about this all wrong?