Phew 7% is so little and in this case I will let it cure longer then usual. I’m still trying to understand super fat etc. I hate rebatching it’s messy and the last time I did this I put it in a food processor and mixed it with soda for laundry.Commercial NaOH isn't 100% pure, but almost all soap recipe calculators assume it is. This means there is a "hidden" superfat built into recipes produced by these calcs. The hidden superfat is the difference in the real purity and the assumed 100% purity.
Your recipe with the missing 7% safflower is right at -1% superfat, assuming 100% NaOH purity. Allowing a reasonable guess for the hidden superfat -- which can typically be 3% to 8% for fresh NaOH -- then your soap still has a slight to moderate positive superfat even with the missing safflower.
I normally use 2-3% superfat AND I correct for the NaOH purity. My soap turns out fine.
If you used a calc that assumes 100% NaOH purity (every online calc I've looked at is like this), your soap should be okay as it is. No need to rebatch or jump through other hoops to "fix" it.
And even if your NaOH happens to truly be 100% pure and your soap really is slightly lye heavy at -1% lye excess, the soap will still be fine after curing. A slight lye excess like this can and does dissipate over time. So again, there's no need to jump through hoops to fix this soap.
Oh my no, you are NOT the only one with MOM problems. You should see some of my rants. Good luck to you dear, as a caregiver, it is not fun.If you ever need to vent, you're welcome to vent to me or even to the group at large. You aren't the only one with Mom Troubles. We're good at lending our support if you need it!