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Question for the parents who move away: What was the impetus of your move (financial, family, weather, etc)? What do your adult children think/feel about your move? I'm so curious. As a family genealogy enthusiast, I find family movements so very fascinating and I love to figure out how so-and-so ended up here or there. My maternal side has been in the same state of Oklahoma since the Trail and then the Land Rush (Mom's paternal side are literally "sooners" aka "cheater-faces" 😄 ). Paternal side is much the same, with exception of Grandma who grew up in Missouri. Every so often there's a child who moves out of state, but not parents in my lines unless they move in with one of their children who have moved out of state. So, parents moving is SO fascinating to me. Please share. :)
 

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Until you close, you can back out. That realtor sounds like a shark.
No, he is not a shark, and we are really getting the better end of the deal. I pray he does not back out. Hillside homes in my area are hard to come by and he knows it and we know how much work this house needs.

We will cash out enough to build what we want and I will be close to my oldest granddaughter that I practically raised up until they moved to Winnemucca about 1.5yrs ago. Sadly I will leave my youngest granddaughter but I will be able to come back to visit when I want. Also, the ability to return to Califonia to another hillside home in the future will be here, which many who leave Calif do not have such an opportunity. So it made this decision easier for us.

My youngest daughter in Winnemucca is in poor health and is married to a flake we worry she will never have anything so she may end up with us. I think I talked Dad into a 2 story that we really do not want but make living space for her and Autumn in case we need to move them in in the future. Long story short her husband has a gambling problem and it seems he has no intentions of changing. She just opened the account to transfer money into their house saving fund and it was gone, he went to the casino to in his words, "to get a jump on their savings," well guess how that went. The man cannot get it into his head casinos are not built and the lights stay on because of winners. When we were up there last week he wanted to buy the lot below the one we purchased and asked if we could help with the purchase price, he could save x amount in x amount of time. We told him flat out NO. I wonder why.

I will not be moving up there while my house is being built, if we go with a stick-built we will find a cheap trailer and take turns going up there during the construction if we have a Modular built we will only go up when it is delivered to the property and finished. I will be living in my mom's rental house, the one she evicted my kids out of and started the whole family dissension, rent-free until we move up there. Tony and I will finish working on her rental while we live in it, so this will involve 2 moves but the rental is down the street. Mom and sister can complain all they want I now have control, and if they insist on rent I will pay it and pay back management, repair, and maintenance fees. The house is in very bad condition since my parents never maintained it for 13 years and my kids patched it the best they could.

I will only be taking very few pieces of furniture with me, so that will be easy. The hardest will be moving my reptiles since my tanks are multiplying rapidly. I am looking forward to a new building for my reptiles that is climate-controlled. That will be so nice. Whether is be a large shed type building or one build by hubby has promised me one, besides he does not want them in his new house. Win Win for me. ;) ;)
 

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I will not be moving up there while my house is being built, if we go with a stick-built we will find a cheap trailer and take turns going up there during the construction if we have a Modular built we will only go up when it is delivered to the property and finished. I will be living in my mom's rental house, the one she evicted my kids out of and started the whole family dissension, rent-free until we move up there. Tony and I will finish working on her rental while we live in it, so this will involve 2 moves but the rental is down the street. Mom and sister can complain all they want I now have control, and if they insist on rent I will pay it and pay back management, repair, and maintenance fees. The house is in very bad condition since my parents never maintained it for 13 years and my kids patched it the best they could.

I will only be taking very few pieces of furniture with me, so that will be easy. The hardest will be moving my reptiles since my tanks are multiplying rapidly. I am looking forward to a new building for my reptiles that is climate-controlled. That will be so nice. Whether is be a large shed type building or one build by hubby has promised me one, besides he does not want them in his new house. Win Win for me. ;) ;)
I am thankful you are in control and am truly excited for your new adventure. It does indeed sound like a Win Win!

We went with a modular and we're glad we did. Even though the finishing aspect of it was way more involved than we were told and could have ever imagined (we weren't yet in state and they originally set it up backwards with the front door to the back, and my FIL was the only one who noticed...love that man), with me needing to be here literally everyday for two months, we're really thankful we don't have the issues folks around here usually have with critters they can't get rid off (bats, snakes, racoons, you name it...) due to the nature of stick-built homes being open to the elements for long periods of time. We also thought it would be a lot less expensive, but by the time the basement and systems like septic went in, it ended up costing about the same as a stick built. But again - we've not had the "critter" issue which makes it well worth it.
 

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I am thankful you are in control and am truly excited for your new adventure. It does indeed sound like a Win Win!

We went with a modular and we're glad we did. Even though the finishing aspect of it was way more involved than we were told and could have ever imagined (we weren't yet in state and they originally set it up backwards with the front door to the back, and my FIL was the only one who noticed...love that man), with me needing to be here literally everyday for two months, we're really thankful we don't have the issues folks around here usually have with critters they can't get rid off (bats, snakes, racoons, you name it...) due to the nature of stick-built homes being open to the elements for long periods of time. We also thought it would be a lot less expensive, but by the time the basement and systems like septic went in, it ended up costing about the same as a stick built. But again - we've not had the "critter" issue which makes it well worth it.
We are also concerned about the weather aspect of building stick. We have to put in a well, septic, fencing but at least the Electric is there although we will probably need to upgrade the panel which we will start on as soon as we decide on the plans for the house placement. The problem with the area we are moving to is the lack of builders so we may have no choice but go modular although my husband is not sold on the idea, he cannot envision anything other than Stick-built. So far we cannot even get a call back from one of the 3 builders in the area so it still looks like we will need to go to travel to Boise Idaho to a modular home builder.

What will be nice is we can put in a gate to access the BLM land to ride on and explore, they maintain the barb-wire fencing up to our gate, we only have to maintain our gate.

I assume you did not have to absorb the cost of their placing your home backwards on your property? With any type of construction, someone has to be onsite to supervise, whether stick-built or placing a modular.

To answer your question about moving away, my oldest daughter is having a hard time with our moving, but she has known for a couple of years we were going to have to make a change and sadly we cannot afford to relocate and stay in California financially at this time. Our house is not a house for people our age and it was time sell so when the opportunity came up we jumped on it. When you are in your seventies, retired it is not easy to get home loans and I DO NOT want to make house payments. So as much as I worry about my oldest daughter and her problems we have to take care of us at this point in our lives and they may retire to Pahrump in a few years.
 
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We have the same problem getting builders, and the trades in general, in this area too. We didn't find that out until we were here and we were most thankful that our builder had to carry the burden of finding and hiring the trades, and not us. No - LOL - we did not get charged for them putting it on backwards and thankfully the builder listened to Dad and was able to stop them while it was still on the crane. Dad went out because they called saying they it was that day or no day for getting the crane. Nice! The weather was also a concern as we do have a short building season up here, complete with frost restrictions. I swear I went gray over the whole thing. hahaha

I'm glad you'll be near your daughter with "the husband" and Autumn. Seems like that young lady will benefit greatly from Grandma being around, as will her Mom I'm sure.

I'm looking forward to seeing pics of your new "hobby room", which I hope you do indeed get!

Thanks for the insight on moving. I'm going to enter it into my gene notes.
 

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it still looks like we will need to go to travel to Boise Idaho to a modular home builder.
Come to Boise! Just do it soon before we are homeless sometime around April 1. Our buyer wants in and our seller doesn't want to get out. :D
 

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Question for the parents who move away: What was the impetus of your move (financial, family, weather, etc)? What do your adult children think/feel about your move? I'm so curious. As a family genealogy enthusiast, I find family movements so very fascinating and I love to figure out how so-and-so ended up here or there. My maternal side has been in the same state of Oklahoma since the Trail and then the Land Rush (Mom's paternal side are literally "sooners" aka "cheater-faces" 😄 ). Paternal side is much the same, with exception of Grandma who grew up in Missouri. Every so often there's a child who moves out of state, but not parents in my lines unless they move in with one of their children who have moved out of state. So, parents moving is SO fascinating to me. Please share. :)
Impetus: Love and Hubby's family. Plus I am a wanderer, so with my love of travel, (almost) everywhere I go, I also want to move there.
Adult Children: Followed (both did, although not at the same time, and one moved away again, but not back to CA. They moved to Texas to be near DIL's familiy)
 

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We have the same problem getting builders, and the trades in general, in this area too. We didn't find that out until we were here and we were most thankful that our builder had to carry the burden of finding and hiring the trades, and not us. No - LOL - we did not get charged for them putting it on backwards and thankfully the builder listened to Dad and was able to stop them while it was still on the crane. Dad went out because they called saying they it was that day or no day for getting the crane. Nice! The weather was also a concern as we do have a short building season up here, complete with frost restrictions. I swear I went gray over the whole thing. hahaha

I'm glad you'll be near your daughter with "the husband" and Autumn. Seems like that young lady will benefit greatly from Grandma being around, as will her Mom I'm sure.

I'm looking forward to seeing pics of your new "hobby room", which I hope you do indeed get!

Thanks for the insight on moving. I'm going to enter it into my gene notes.
Thank goodness it was stopped in time.
My hubby is getting cold feet about building and now wants to just keep our lot and buy a stick-built new home. :( I do not want that because all the new homes are in regular neighborhoods not much more than 1/2 acre lots. Not what I want.
 

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Thank goodness it was stopped in time.
My hubby is getting cold feet about building and now wants to just keep our lot and buy a stick-built new home. :( I do not want that because all the new homes are in regular neighborhoods not much more than 1/2 acre lots. Not what I want.
Maybe rather than moving into your mom's house, considering going right from your current home to renting something in the Winnemucca area. Then you will have lots more time to drive around, see what's what, and figure out what you really want. It is so much easier once you are physically there.

I will say, we are very thankful that we rented here in Idaho before buying. Although moving a second time was not fun, we would have made a big mistake by purchasing in the area to which we were first attracted. As perfect as it seemed, it would have been too far from all of the things we need and want to do on a regular basis. We would have been in the car all the time! Renting for those few months helped us figure out what was really best for us.

Our kids did the opposite when they moved to Texas. They bought a house they loved while on a four-day scouting trip there. They felt a lot of pressure to buy quickly in a rising market, and because they didn't want to move twice. Not until after they moved in, did they realize it was in the absolute wrong location for them. Not a bad location - just super inconvenient, and didn't have the neighborhood amenities that they wanted. So, they ended up selling and moving into an apartment before finding a house in an area that worked for them. That meant THREE moves instead of two!

Something to consider, but I know you have other considerations with your mom's house, too, so YMMV. :)
 
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