I have to admit that I am awkward when I run into another soap seller at the same show. I don't have any problems if I am shopping as a customer to ask questions and chat about the process, but I struggle if I'm there as a seller as well. My first two experiences with another soapmaker at the same show just left a bitter taste in my mouth. One was doing a make & take cp soap, so I was curious what she was doing for molds and how she was explaining the cutting and cure process to customers. It was, honestly, curiosity and not critique (a good answer probably would have gotten my business because it was goats milk soap which I would have enjoyed using) but she responded "Maybe you should be worrying about what's going on at your booth and not mine." The other lady (also goats milk) is just loud and rude to start with, I run into her at the shows I do back home twice a year, and her main staple is canned goods with just a few soaps off to the side. But every year I can hear her from across the room telling people that her soaps are cured for 4-6 weeks, and not like my uncured soaps. She has never talked to me about soap, she has never looked at my soaps, so I don't know if she is judging that my soaps are m&p based on how colorful my table is... or just wants to be loud and rude.
I think those two initial experiences just warped my brain that other sellers are going to be rude as well. I had a good experience with the lady I met at the beginning of July, but I think part of that was just how I handled it. She had some soaps that looked like they could be DOS, but she didn't have labels on them, so I couldn't be sure it was herbs or puree causing a normal discoloration. I could have started the conversation when she had a handful of customers, but I didn't. I waited until no one was around (I even told her a few times when there were customers browsing, that I would wait to talk to her) and then I said "Do you have something in this soap that is causing the discoloration, or is it possible you have DOS?" My instinct to wait was correct, because she explained that that particular soap was made with cucumber puree, and the cucumber peel was causing the discoloration. She then thanked me for waiting until she had no customers, and we chatted for about 15 minutes (it was a really slow show), swapped soaps and went on our way. [I didn't like her soap, but I did enjoy talking with her and I look forward to running into her again.]
The soaper at the show last weekend... well... that was just awkward. This was the soaper that got priority placement at the show, which I don't blame her for as that is totally on the organizer so I really wasn't upset about another soaper, just where we were placed. Anyways, this lady showed up an hour late for the show, packed up an hour early, and didn't even bother to come back for the second day. I did pop over to see her when my booth had slowed down (customers came looking for me out in the boonies! Yay! but also a huge props to two vendor friends who made sure that people knew where I was). I didn't bother to introduce myself, I looked over her soaps, checked her price points and then just moved on like I was a regular browsing shopper. I told my husband that I felt awkward about it, but after hearing her tell a few customers that it was freshly made soap (HP) just for this show, I didn't feel inclined to talk soap with her. Man, it was awkward though. I didn't even check her labels (which I confess, I do whether I'm a shopper or seller, sorry
@cmzaha) although I did notice she had her bar weight listed at 4.5 ounces, but I don't think they were that big. Of course, I under label mine at 4.0 ounces but they're in the 4.5-4.7 range... blah... I just didn't have anything good to start out a conversation with her. We used different methods, we apparently have different thoughts on cure, questionable label practices... I don't think it would have been good for either of us. So in the end the only thing I took away was checking to see if we were competitively priced and what she had for fragrances. Yep, I was "that" soaper last weekend and I'm not apologizing for it