Just returned from a quick trip to my hometown. Very grateful that Sis no longer displays my soap but actually uses it. Sis and BIL are not fans of my pine tar salve experiment, which is fine, it's a strong scent.
Awhile back my dad was very clear that I no longer need to give him my soap anymore. He keeps one of my bars on the guest bath sink. It's old and starting to get DOS. I looked in a drawer, and hoo boy, found soap 2-3 years old, all with DOS and smelling not so fresh. Erg. I've been so open on how improved my skin is, kinda puzzled why he refused to be converted....
Gosh, I feel you. I too was making some really lovely soaps and some of my family were actually fighting over who was getting them! And my father just said, "no thanks, I got some from a friend of your sister's that smell really pretty." I was just so disappointed. Those pretty smelling soaps were hotel amenities that someone had gotten from their job. I rarely scent my soaps because I can't afford to do it. However, no one on my father's side has problematic skin, and they live in a part of that country that is warm and humid so they don't necessarily feel the need to use "special" soap.
My father died this past year and I couldn't travel to attend his funeral or to be with my siblings and my step-mom. I'm glad that I have no regrets about our relationship because I have so many beautiful memories together before he remarried and after. So this July, on my first vacation to see my family since the pandemic began, I'll be visiting them with just hugs and recipes to cook for them because that's the one thing they all loved. My non-Hispanic cultural recipes!
I'll also be taking the soaps the rest of my family DO appreciate, which are the Bastile and honey/oat and honey lard-based soaps, all unscented!
The old guard are hard to move sometimes from their stance on homemade things. I know that in El Salvador if you tell someone that the soaps are made with lard without giving them a demonstration FIRST, and letting them see how nice their skin feels after washing their hands with them, you'll get a quite aggressive negative response. And that's because most things pork derived are usually linked to poverty, and to what the poor use. For example, pork soap was black and smelly because it was made from frying pork almost dark brown and the lard wasn't strained, and the potash was from wood ash that wasn't necessarily strained either. A ball of the dark and smelly soap was less than 3 pennies of that time. I will bet your father was a similar product of the Depression-era or the end of it, when homemade was a necessity, not an option, and thinks that the pretty smelling soaps or gels are what's best because that's what the ads say. IOW, he's a product of his time. He won't see that his hobby and yours have anything in common, not the least that yours is actually useful and beneficial. Enjoy your time with him, and leave aside the annoyances. Time with one's beloved elders gets to be so short.