Pure Evil_sister rant again

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  1. Mar 23, 2019 #1

    cmzaha

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    I have come to the conclusion that my sister is pure evil. Not only did she take off to Arizona with mom around a month ago, she lied and filed a Restraining Order on me. So now I cannot even say hi to my mom. I just do not understand how someone can be so evil and hateful. So this is going to cost me a bundle of money since she filed in AZ, I am going to have to pay my Attorney to go over there with me at $400 per hr. Do the math on that one, but like he said, "we have to get it taken care of," and I am sure she is not planning on me showing up let alone with an Attorney.

    Her first reason on the paperwork states I filed an Adult Protection Services (APS) on her. Yep I did. Then she accused me of saying she would "die", so this was a threat. I told her, her drugs, jealousy and greed was going to cause her to die. Then she stated my husband stated she would probably not like how things end. So this was a threat... He told her if all of this goes to court (before the restraining order), she may not like how it ends. She is nothing but an evil snake, with free access to my mom's account. I have never hurt my mom or lied to her, in fact my husband and I have watched and helped them since we were married in 1972, plus mom and I worked together in hers/ ours small Beauty shop for 30 yrs. Sister sat in Arizona and would maybe come out every 3 or 4 yrs to visit. Oh yes, she also listed me as a relative not sister. In my opinion listing the APS case show she ran from it, hopefully the judge thinks the same. I just do not understand how people can lie and lie and are believed.

    So this is where my life is at the moment and no soapmaking.
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    Oh Carolyn, I’m so very sorry you are going through this. How awful. Sending you strength and hugs. Family sometimes sucks. Your poor mom too. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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    That sucks. Ive never understood how family could hurt family. Hopefully you can get this resolved without too much more BS.
     
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    Thank you both. This is insane and just ticks me off royally that it is going to cost upwards of 10k to get this taken care of. I would say my sister has no attorney but she has free reign at the moment of mom's money. So who knows
     
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    It's just heartbreaking. Not because of how siblings can be (I have experienced some, but not to this degree) but because I know you (and your hubby) have done so much. Unbelievable
     
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    Oh, dear .... beyond words .... :beatinghead:
     
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    So sorry to hear you are going thriugh such a tough time with your sister, its never nice having someone twisting your words ect to fire it back in an attack, can only imagine it feeling so much more like a big bitrail (not sure how to spell that sorry) with it being a family member doing that too you.

    Iv been in a simular situation with work for the past 2 and a half years in that they have been saying things that have been untrue and goes against the truth that iv been telling them which they have refused to accept and used lies against me so i kind of know how it feels for you. At least you have your husband too help and support you. Really hope that you get things sorted soon and at least you have somewhere to rant.
     
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    It is unbelievable to me to. But I have noticed some huge personality change since she started using Kratom to help replace 14 yrs of 50mg Oxycodone use a day. I think she can no longer get her oky since her doctor committed suicide. He had the Feds after him.

    Worst part is she would attack me physically everytime I went over there and all I did was push her away to defend myself. I am not stupid enough to initiate an attack. Then she will sit on the couch and cry that she wishes she had a sister. That will never happen again, plus our cousins and their kids are 100% against her now. Greed and Jealousy are such a vicious combination.
     
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    did she get your mom to agree to what she was saying? what judge in their right mind would agree to the restraining order because you filed adult protection paper work? truly amazin that they didn't do something with that. have you contacted the agency that you filed with to see if they have followed up on that? or what they have to say? this just sucks that she can work the system like that.
     
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    I am so sorry you are going through this Carolyn. Our family has had to deal with something similar this past year with an awol family member who seems to have given into to the dark side and thrown his wife and kids under the proverbial bus. There had been trouble a- brewing under the surface for a good while, but then things took a turn for the worse and escalated when weekly testosterone shots made their way into the mix.... along with a couple of shady characters that said family member unwisely befriended. Aye yi yi- those testosterone shots are bad nasty personality changers. It's a long sordid tale, but it's insane the amount of money that my dear SIL has had to spend on protecting herself - lawyers fees and court costs, not to mention restraining orders, etc., - but thanks to the whole family pulling together on her behalf, she hasn't had to go it alone. While lawyers in general may get a bad rap, a good, ethical lawyer is worth their weight in gold when you're dealing with a selfish, irrational, lying adversary who has it out for you for absolutely no good reason. SIL has one last court date next month and that should be it. We'll all be going with her for support. So far, the judge has been able to see through all the lies. SIL and the truth have won every step of the way. I'll be praying that it will be the same for you, too, Carolyn!


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    Thankyou IrishLass, it is amazing how the liars can prevail at least for long enough to cost a person thousands and thousands of dollars. Because of her my kids moved 600 miles away since she convinced my mom to evict them after 13 years.

    Truthfully my mom does not understand what is going on due to dementia my sister says does not exist. APS could not finish the investigation since she took off to Arizona with her.
     
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    my problem person only cost me $400 to clear my name and the judge saw right thru her. even $400 was a lot for me at that point in my life but I was dammed if I was going to let her do to me what I had watched her do to other people. I am sorry you have to go thru this. does your lawyer think it would be helpful to file the same paperwork where she is living now? best of luck
     
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    @cmzaha - That all sounds horrid. I've been lurking and reading your ongoing drama with your sister and am more than grateful that my siblings are nothing like that! Carolyn, I'm in AZ, Phoenix and I know that there are laws in every state protecting seniors from abuse and kidnapping - especially those with dementia. Let me know if you need me to look up anything for you - or DO anything for you! I'm more than happy to help!
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    deleted cause it was too mean to post on a chat site. Let me just say how sorry I am that your going through this. Bless your heart!
     
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    I am going to definitely fight it. I just cannot afford to have a Restraining Order on my record. Why this is going to cost so much is the fact I have to pay all the expenses of my Attorney to travel to AZ. I am hoping we can get an in and out flight so I do not have to pay for lodging too.

    Thankyou Deborah, I am going to ask my attorney if I can file an APS report in AZ on her. It is so obivious she was running from it.
     
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    Can you hire an Arizona lawyer to handle things while she's in AZ instead of the CA lawyer traveling? would that save money?
     
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    ...maybe someone who would work *with* your attorney? It may be worth your while to find out...
     
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    Sending out more hugs and good vibes.. Hope they reach intact from across the ocean lol

    You've been in our thoughts and prayers too, since you first posted. You and your mom. This isn't something you, and especially her, has to deal with...
     
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    [QUOTE="cmzaha, post: 759083, member: 6100" APS could not finish the investigation since she took off to Arizona with her.[/QUOTE]

    THAT should be illegal. Definitely contact APS and let them know of this; and if they know and are shrugging it off, you have to find out under WHAT authority they can do that under? It does not sound right to me. You may be able to get your mom "extradicted", as it were.
     

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