ChrissyB
Well-Known Member
My daughter is 16. For the last couple of months she has been seeing a boy. Her first "proper" boyfriend. He's a really nice kid and seems to have his head screwed on, has his own car that he saved for, a job.
I was cleaning her room this morning and picked her bag up and a chemist bag fell out...it was for the morning after pill. I didn't know if I should say something or not, but I thought, no, I'm her mother...she needs to be able to come to me with this stuff. I put the packet on the table and said "is there something you want to talk to me about?". She burst into tears. I told her it was ok, I just want her to talk to me. I had my son when I was 17, I don't want that to happen to her. My mother never talked to me about contraception. I fell pregnant to my first boyfriend.Sooo, she told me what happened...at the boyfriends house for the first time without his parents home, one thing led to another and they had sex. The condom broke. So she went and got the morning after pill straight away. Like within an hour. She wasn't on any other contraception...we have talked about it and I told her she just has to tell me when and we will go to the doctor. So, I gave her the money back for the morning after pill. It cost her $30. She has a job and earns her own little bit of money, and I thought of making her wear the cost as a little lesson to her, but it takes two to tango, and I don't want to shut down the lines of communication. We have a doctors appointment tomorrow, she wants me to go in there, and discuss contraceptive methods.
She just texted me and said she'd told the bf that i found the pills, and he is coming over this afternoon to give me back the money. She said he was always going to give it back to her, but he wants to come and give it to me himself. I think that takes guts for a teenager to do.
So, what do you think, did I handle this ok? I'm a little shell shocked really. It really hits you when you realise your kids are growing up.
I was cleaning her room this morning and picked her bag up and a chemist bag fell out...it was for the morning after pill. I didn't know if I should say something or not, but I thought, no, I'm her mother...she needs to be able to come to me with this stuff. I put the packet on the table and said "is there something you want to talk to me about?". She burst into tears. I told her it was ok, I just want her to talk to me. I had my son when I was 17, I don't want that to happen to her. My mother never talked to me about contraception. I fell pregnant to my first boyfriend.Sooo, she told me what happened...at the boyfriends house for the first time without his parents home, one thing led to another and they had sex. The condom broke. So she went and got the morning after pill straight away. Like within an hour. She wasn't on any other contraception...we have talked about it and I told her she just has to tell me when and we will go to the doctor. So, I gave her the money back for the morning after pill. It cost her $30. She has a job and earns her own little bit of money, and I thought of making her wear the cost as a little lesson to her, but it takes two to tango, and I don't want to shut down the lines of communication. We have a doctors appointment tomorrow, she wants me to go in there, and discuss contraceptive methods.
She just texted me and said she'd told the bf that i found the pills, and he is coming over this afternoon to give me back the money. She said he was always going to give it back to her, but he wants to come and give it to me himself. I think that takes guts for a teenager to do.
So, what do you think, did I handle this ok? I'm a little shell shocked really. It really hits you when you realise your kids are growing up.
