I am not a moderator, nor do I have the answer to your question. However, if you can't do either one, don't worry about it. Many, many people end up being awesome soapers that help others after a rough start. And we have all regretted things we said and did. Trust me when I say that I know well the taste of my feet. You just endeavor to do better in the future.
A non-frou-frou person living in a frou-frou world.